r.e.s.p.e.c.t.

….find out what it means to me.

Okay, so I recently wrote a whole post about the wonderful blog world, and all of the lovely people in my life who make the world a better place.

Today – in the real world –  I ran into no such person. In fact, I ran into the antithesis of the respectful individual. Details aside, today a guy – who I’ve never seen before and don’t know – was so disrespectful towards me…over a minor “misunderstanding.” I don’t get how people think they can talk to others the way they do. He talked down to me – spoke to me like I was an idiot and insinuated that I was a liar…all over something extremely trivial.

Furthermore, after speaking with him – he left – and I thought that everything was said and done and the situation had been dealt with and resolved……he returned 30 or so minutes later to sit down next to me and take a verbal jab at me again.

I stood up for myself, said my piece, and left…because I wasn’t about to sit there and let him attempt to make a fool out of me. Sadly, I’m inclined to believe that if it had been a guy in my place – though the misunderstanding still would have occurred it would have been dealt with differently – but because I was a girl…I became fair game – a target even (especially since he came back).

Needless to say, I walked away in shock…I would never speak to another individual the way I was spoken to today – let alone to a complete stranger!

I spent the afternoon trying to clear this situation from my mind…as my dad said, “You can’t let the assholes rent space in your head!” …however, though I’m cooled down, it still stings a bit.

All I can ask is – where’s the respect? I was taught to treat every person with respect – and while I can’t say that I always have done that: 365 days a year, 7 days a week – I really make the conscious effort to be respectful…even if – no especially if – I am disagreeing with someone. You can always disagree and still show a person respect.

As the saying goes…”you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar..”

On a lighter note – I am inching closer and closer to being done. Hooray!

Tonight – my eats are taking a bit of a back seat…pictures? Of course!! However, I’ve got to buckle down and study for my finals.

I hope you all are truly wonderful!!! ❤ ❤

No use crying over coffee...even if it's all over your table.

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Frothy goodness.

Misto madness.

AB & J at its finest.

Tomato soup is good for the soul

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13 thoughts on “r.e.s.p.e.c.t.

  1. So sorry you had to deal with someone who was so disrespectful. That is always upsetting, especially if you felt as though it was because you wre a girl. At least you had some yummy eats and COFFEE!

  2. Ugh. I hate when people don’t show the same respect you show them, especially when they have no reason not to. I’ll admit, there are people that I don’t treat as well as I should, mostly because they’ve been a**holes to me in the past, but for a stranger to be disrespectful is just insulting and rude. Good for you for rising above it!!

    Your PB&J wraps always remind me of crepes…yummy!

  3. I’m sorry that had to happen to you! I was taught the same way you were! It’s strange that not everyone feels the same way. But you’re being the big one to move on like that! Have a great night, girl!

  4. HI love! i love your blog and have never commented!! but i felt inclinced to! have you ever taken any women’s studies courses? i dont know if you are in school or not, but I truly believe EVERY woman AND man should take at least ONE! I am actually a women’s studies major now;.. but prior to taking these classes, those situations left me in pieces which would ruin my day… and then week/month subconciously..

    anyway, i really suggest research women’s studies/ feminist theory in general if you never have. i promise there will be SO many things you identify with and and will EMPOWER you EVEN more than you already are!!!!

    xoxox

    • Yes!! I actually took a Women’s History course this semester. My professor was a former women’s labor organizer so it was a really interesting perspective. I honestly think that that class is what gave me the guts to actually stand up to him. 🙂

  5. 😦 There are definitely assholes out there!! And he’s not worth you spending time feeling hurt by him (even though that’s easier said than done).

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